Attachment psychology research shows that the proportion of avoidant and anxious attachments among young people in Japan continues to rise, while secure attachments that can stabilize trust and moderately rely on others are shrinking year by year. This is not an individual personality issue, but a structural change driven by family upbringing, economic environment, and cultural beliefs.
1? Current situation: The proportion of secure attachment continues to decline
1.1 Significant differentiation of attachment patterns between two generations
The generation of foam economy has more complete three generations of family care, which is easier to form safe attachment; Heisei, Linghe, and young people grew up in isolated nuclear families, and the fear of intimacy and trust became the mainstream of restless attachment.
1.2 Marriage and dating behavior confirms attachment deficiency
The typical external manifestation ???????,of insufficient secure attachment is the prevalence of herbivorous men, separation from love, and divorce. Young people are afraid to have deep intimacy and are unwilling to establish stable intimate connections.
2? Native family: The safe foundation begins to be lost from childhood
2.1 Long term absence of father and insufficient emotional response
Under the traditional division of labor of "male lead outside and female lead inside", fathers often work overtime and are absent from childcare; The mother is solely responsible for household chores and child rearing, leading to emotional exhaustion and difficulty in providing sustained and stable emotional responses. The child lacks a stable and safe base.
2.2 Education that suppresses emotions weakens attachment ability
Society advocates' no trouble ', and children are required to restrain their needs and emotions. They are unable to express their vulnerability freely for a long time, and as they grow up, they instinctively avoid deep emotional delivery, forming a defensive mentality.
3? Low desire society exacerbates anxiety and attachment diffusion
3.1 Economic uncertainty weakens inner security
The prevalence of informal employment and stagnant income have left young people in a state of long-term survival anxiety, with unstable inner foundations and a tendency to rely on others for self-protection.
3.2 Virtual Emotions Replace Real Attachment Support
Anime, virtual lovers, ?????? and single leisure are popular. Low cost companionship replaces real two-way nourishment. People lose the practice opportunities of running in, trust, and empathy, and safe attachment is difficult to establish.
4? Cultural and marriage concepts amplify attachment dilemmas
4.1 Silent screening mechanism enhances defensive psychology
The marriage and love market is characterized by hidden stratification and silent elimination, with everyone being prepared in advance, probing and observing, and not daring to be completely honest, which fails to cultivate a safe and trustworthy way of getting along.
4.2 Negative implications formed by failed marriage samples
High divorce rates, mature divorces, and marital violence are everywhere. Young people assume that intimate relationships will eventually be hurt, actively close their hearts, and give up building safe connections.
5? Conclusion: Reduced secure attachment is a social structural dilemma
The atrophy of secure attachment is essentially the result of social pressure, lack of family emotions, and increased risk of intimate relationships. Sense of security is a product of mutual nourishment, and when the environment continues to transmit anxiety, people can only protect themselves through alienation and avoidance. To rebuild stable attachment, families and society need to provide a tolerant, stable, and trustworthy emotional soil together.